Things I Love About My Husband Then vs. Now


life after kidsMy husband never ceases to amaze me, but the things I love most about him have definitely changed over the years since having kids. What better time than Valentine’s Day to reflect on how our love continues to evolve.  

How he shows he cares after I’ve had a long day:
Then-He gave me a gorgeous bouquet of roses as soon as I walked in the door.
Now-He gave the kids a bath.

Our favorite date night:
Then– He booked a quiet spot at the best French restaurant downtown, and arranged for the Maitre’D to bring us the same bottle of wine we enjoyed on our honeymoon. Then we went to my favorite dessert spot for cake and more fancy drinks.
Now– Anywhere. Literally anywhere without the kids. I will sit in the parking lot of a McDonalds if it means we have a little peace and quiet.

Best use of a little extra date night time:

Then: We leisurely enjoy one more drink plus a little smooching in the car.

Now: We make a quick trip to Safeway and Target just to “pick up a few things for the week.”

Favorite gift he has given me:
Then: That romantic weekend at a nice hotel where you surprised me with beautiful diamond earrings.  
Now: Sleeping in on a weekend. Even 45 minutes makes such a difference! My new bath robe is a close second!

Our favorite day getaway:

Then– A dreamy day spent at the beach, relaxing, napping, sipping from our Yeti of wine, and leisurely watching for whales.
Now– A busy day at the beach with sand, so much sand, sunscreen, hungry, tired kids, and wet bathing suits. Did I mention sand everywhere?

Best part about being married:
Then: someone to snuggle with as I fall asleep and to wake up next to each morning.
Now: someone to tag off with in the middle of the night when the baby won’t stop screaming.

What he does that makes me smile:
Then: He surprised me with tickets to a Jack Johnson concert even though I know he doesn’t enjoy that kind of music.
Now: He surprised me with a clean kitchen and a glass of wine after I put the kids to bed.  

Most vulnerable moment:

Then– When he read his vows. His words and sentiment took my breath away, and I lost all composure.
Now– He “blinked tears” at our daughter’s birth.

Most common topic of conversation:

Then: Our dreams and aspirations. We could spend hours thinking about where we would be in 10 years. And of course planning our next big vacation to Cabo or Hawaii.
Now: Poop. It’s always poop.

How I know he is right for me:
Then-He’s my rock. I can tell him anything and he’s always there for me.

Now– He’s my rock. I can tell him anything and he’s always there for me.

Well, I guess some things don’t change. Happy Valentine’s day!

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Meredith is a transplant to the Bay Area and has fallen in love with the weather, gorgeous scenery, and plethora of local wineries. A wife and mother of two, she works part-time as a Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist. She hails from Texas, where she attended the University of Texas and will always bleed orange. She then moved to Washington DC to attend Georgetown's School of Medicine, where she fell in love with her future husband, a fellow student, and has been happily married for almost a decade. She and her husband lived in Cincinnati, Ohio for several years for their medical training and found it the perfect place to start a family. She relocated to the Bay Area a few years ago and has quickly adapted to West Coast living. Meredith enjoys the balance of part-time working and full-time parenting and loves to write about this ongoing struggle. In her persistent drive to find more "me time", she actively pursues her interests in reading, running, soccer, baking, and wine tasting.


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